Most people go into a relationship hoping chemistry is enough — Dr. Kristine Anthis has sat with enough couples in deep pain to know it isn’t. In this conversation with Rick Kahler, the IFS-trained psychologist and certified matchmaker reveals what traditional matchmaking almost never touches: the internal parts that choose our partners for us, and the money scripts quietly running the relationship before the first date ends. She describes a woman who keeps almost signing up, always one career milestone away from being ready for love, and you can feel the protector in the room. Rick and Kristine are building something the field has never seen: an emotional and financial compatibility framework designed to prevent the rupture that couples therapy has to repair years too late. What if the person you chose wasn’t really chosen by you?
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Your Parts Are Running Your Dating Life — Not You – with Kristine Anthis, PhD
About Dr. Kristine Anthis
Dr. Kristine Anthis, PhD, is the Founder of IFS Dating & Matchmaking, where she combines the science of psychology with personalized matchmaking to help high-achieving singles build healthier, more fulfilling relationships from the very beginning.
As a Certified Matchmaker with an extensive clinical background in couples therapy, Dr. Anthis offers a level of psychological insight that goes far beyond traditional dating services. Drawing on years of experience helping individuals and couples navigate relationship challenges, she equips clients with the tools to better understand the internal patterns that influence attraction, dating, communication, and long-term partnership.
Her work is rooted in Internal Family Systems (IFS), helping clients recognize and understand the different “parts” of themselves before, during, and after dating. By increasing self-awareness and emotional flexibility, she empowers singles to make relationship choices that align with their authentic values rather than unconscious patterns.
Dr. Anthis is trained through the IFS Institute in Internal Family Systems Therapy Levels 1, 2, and 3, as well as Intimacy from the Inside Out (IFIO) Couples Therapy. She is also trained in Nonviolent Communication (NVC), providing clients with evidence-based strategies for creating stronger emotional connections and healthier communication.
After years of helping disconnected and conflicted couples heal through IFS and IFIO Couples Therapy, Dr. Anthis began asking a different question: What if many of these struggles could be prevented before relationships even begin? That question inspired her to found IFS Dating & Matchmaking.
Today, her mission is to help people build emotionally healthy relationships from the start, reducing the long-term emotional, financial, physical, and relational costs that often accompany unhealthy partnerships. Through her unique integration of clinical psychology, matchmaking, and relationship education, Dr. Anthis helps clients develop lasting connections built on self-awareness, compatibility, and emotional resilience.
About Rick Kahler:
Rick Kahler, MSFP, CFP® , CFT™, CeFT® , Certified Internal Financial Systems™ Financial Therapy Practitioner, president of Kahler Financial Group, is a lifelong resident of Rapid City, SD. He began his professional career in 1973 selling and appraising real estate He founded Kahler Financial Group in 1981. He became the first fee-only Certified Financial Planner™ (CFP ® ) in South Dakota in 1983. In 2020 he became one of the first Certified Financial Therapist (CFT™,) in the nation.
His firm, specializes in the integration of investment advising, financial planning, financial coaching, and financial therapy, serving small business and real estate owners, professionals, and retirees, as well as individuals and families.
He served on and chaired the South Dakota Investment Council and served in leadership capacities with the Financial Planning Association and the National Association of Financial Planning Advisors. Kahler is also a nationally renowned speaker and educator. In 2003, National American University recognized Mr. Kahler with the Alumni Distinguished Service Award.
Interested in working with Rick Kahler, MSFP, CFP®, CFT™, CeFT®, Certified Internal Financial Systems™ Financial Therapy Practitioner? Please go to our website, Book a Financial Therapist Appointment and fill out a request for a 30-minute free consultation.
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